The Fear of Rejection and Dating

Is there anything more unnatural than going up to someone you don’t know and asking them out on a date? For many men and probably some women this fear keeps them from approaching someone they find attractive. And if you do get the nerve to approach someone if you show that fear they will recognize it and your chances for a successful encounter greatly diminish.

The number one reason for a fear of dating is rejection. There is nothing worse than getting shot down. And if it happens enough you become gun-shy about the whole dating thing. The rejection creates the fear and the fear makes it more likely you’ll get rejected. It becomes a self feeding circle that can be hard to break free from.

The problem is if the fear becomes so great it begins to show when you try and talk to someone for the first time. The other person can pick up on this, particularly if you try to mask your fear by being overly aggressive. There’s nothing worse then hiding your fear by acting like a complete idiot. You basically become someone you normally aren’t.

It all comes down to confidence and how comfortable you are with yourself. If you turn things around for a moment when you meet someone you really want to get to know who they are. First impressions can go a long way towards getting to know someone because in those first few moments you can get a feeling of who this person is. And that right there shapes any future contact you decide you may want to have with this person.

It works the other way to, just as you are trying to get a feel for the person you have suddenly availed yourself on, they are trying to get a quick read on you, and anything that comes off as unnatural or forced behavior, such as the fear of rejection may create, will put them off.

If you battle the fear of rejection when it comes to dating it is important that you work on your self confidence when it comes to talking to members of the opposite sex. You will have a better chance of successfully landing a date with anyone you approach if you are able to do it with confidence and a sense of purpose. If they don’t sense the fear they will have very little reason to say no.