The Dating Game

By David Chandler

With all the websites on the Internet that offer a membership to meet and talk to people that match the criteria that you are looking for, you are bound to find someone worth dating. The question becomes how can you tell if someone is being honest.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive and representing you that way. The way someone presents he or she says a lot about him or her. If you're browsing through the online personals and see someone that catches your attention, the next step would to be to contact them, and ask for a picture if there is not already one. We all know that the first attraction usually comes from physical attraction. If the picture is not that appealing we have a tendency to continue looking.

Dating is the first step in finding a lifelong mate, so don't be in a hurry, go ahead and take your time. Make a list of qualities that you want in a future mate. Once you've made your list of qualities, memorize or carry them with you. These things will determine the type of person you end up dating. Keep in mind that your list should not be more than one page, as no one is perfect and you don't want your expectations to be too high. Everyone has negative aspects about him or her and it is up to you to determine if the positive out weigh the negative.

People carry over past relationships to current ones, and this can be a hurtful thing. Therefore, many people are opting not to date. Dating may seem like a game, but we should not be selfish because of our broken hearts and scarred emotions. Dating has the capacity for good and evil, just like anything else.

Dating can be both very positive or a negative experience. Part of what makes us is the relationships we have and the lessons learned from those relationships. We should be more considerate of the lessons learned and carry them in our lifelong commitments. The truth is that we are likely to foul up any dating mould we choose because we are not perfect.

The most important factor we should be looking at is whether or not we can act upon what is right and say no to what is wrong. You should encourage yourself to date; as you will never meet that person you could spend the rest of your life with if you do not.

Relationships do not always end in marriage, and because of this it doesn't mean we are now less capable of giving someone else just as much honor, love, patience, kindness, trust. If you choose to be sincere, devoted, protecting, trusting, hopeful, persevering, and never failing, I believe your dating years will be incredible years.

Refusing to date tells us that we believe ourselves incapable of having a relationship in that manner that was intended for us. Dating can be a positive experience in your life and help us navigate the waters of maturity and even marriage.

· Dating can be a source of enjoyment and recreation.
· Personal individuality is developed through relationships with other people.
· Men and women need to find out the kinds of roles they find fulfilling in a close relationship.
· Dating involves learning about closeness and serves as an opportunity to institute a unique, meaningful relationship with a person of the opposite sex.
· Dating helps you find the right mate.
· Dating can provide companionship through interaction and shared activities.
· Dating can help prepare you for marriage.

Dating does not have to be frightening, creepy, forced or anything else but enjoyable. What you have to do is make an effort to make the dating years enjoyable. Group dating is a good way to make sure that you abide by the standards that you have set for yourself. Plan outings with friends, church groups, or whatever, just to have more fun.

If you never date anyone, how will you determine what you want? Dating is your chance to have a fairly deep relationship with someone before you hand over your life to a lifelong marriage.

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