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Compliment Your Date
When you are dating someone, or even in a serious relationship, a well placed
compliment will show how much you enjoy being with that special someone. Most
women love being complimented, particularly by someone she might be romantically
interested in.
Because giving compliments is a good way to show your date that you are paying
attention to them you have to know when to use them. Don't get carried away with
the compliments because you do not want to overdo it. You want them to know you
are paying attention but you don't want to come off as needy or desperate.
Nothing sends up the desperation flag quicker than a whole slew of cheesy
compliments.
You want your compliment to put your date in the right frame of mind. You want
them to be accepting of you and who you are. How you compliment should be an
extension of who you are, which will help them get to know you better.
Now the question becomes, what do I compliment them on? That depends on you and
your date. If you are meeting for the first time find two or three things that
you are really attracted to when you first see them. Now don't just blurt these
out, store them away for later on in your date. After you've spent a little time
with them go ahead and compliment them on whatever you noticed first about them.
It is also important that you say it like you mean it. This will show them that
you are attracted to them and that you are paying attention to them.
If you have been on more than a few dates and know this person better then
finding the right compliment will be easier, and sometimes harder. You can't use
the same compliments over and over again, you have to notice new things about
them, or something they may have changed. Say a new hair style or highlights, or
how they are dressed. Let them know how good they look so they know that the
time and effort they have put into whatever they have done was worth it.
Let's turn this around and look at it from the other side. When you go on a date
the one thing you are really looking for is a sort of acceptance. And being
complimented is something that can make you feel very good about not only
yourself but also your date. It means they like what they see, and physical
attraction is very important when dating. It also means that the effort you have
put forth to impress them has paid off and that can be a very good feeling. That
feeling is what you hope to create for the person you are going on the date
with.
Remember, a good compliment can be a powerful thing if used right. Use them as
needed and be sincere. A well placed compliment can be a great ice breaker and
can lead to a truly wonderful date.
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